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KAYDEN

by on Feb.09, 2011, under The Family

mmmmmmm…..I am a tad late in writing this…but hey…we have been a little bit busy.

Where shall I begin….OK….Friday 5th Nov, Sophie had been admitted to hospital the day before because her blood pressure was up and there was the dreaded protein present!. After using a gel and giving “things” a gentle nudge they booted me out of the Hospital at 9 o’clock “go home she will not be doing anything tonight” they told me….after promising to ring as soon as anything did “start” knowing it was a good 40 minute drive to the hospital from my house  -  off Andy and I went….with just a nervous feeling.

The phone rang at 12.27 in the early hours…..I have had four children, but I have to say my hand shook as I took that call….I quickly washed my face, brushed my teeth and kissed a rather pale Andy goodbye….shouting next time we speak you will be a Granddad….and promising to take care of Sophie…and of course to take it easy driving to to the hospital!!!……yeah right..!!!!!!

The forty minute journey took a lot less….by the time I had struggled to key the number plate of my car into the car park ticket dispenser, parked up and legged it across to maternity I had missed Kayden’s arrival by just a few minutes…he arrived at 12.45 – the midwife was just handing him to a rather shell-shocked Sophie!! I couldn’t believe that here was our Sophie holding her Son….and she had very bravely done it all on her own….!!!

Apparently after we left at 9 she had started to contract….the midwives had told her she was not in labour….she begged them to call me….they refused.  By 12 she was in such pain that a text that she was sending me, asking me to come, lay unfinished on her phone…one of the “mum to be’s” on Soph’s ward had rang for a midwife and insisted that she was seen to……one check and Sophie was whipped down to the delivery rooms….I was rang (at 12.27!!!!!) and a couple of pushes later our Kayden made his powerful entry into the world!!!

I have to say…giving birth is special….nothing is compared to holding that baby that you have felt move inside for the first time….but sharing Kayden during those first few hours with Soph was also very special….I gave him a kiss from all the important people in his life who was yet to see him and lifted him to the window and let the heavens look down on him ….for all those special people who he will never see. I am so glad that Soph gave me the chance to share her and Kayden’s first moments together

 By the time poor old Soph had been stitched and messed with it was getting on for 6.30 in the morning…after seeing her settled I headed off back home armed with a camera full of pictures and a stupid grin

I guess the past three months with Kayden at home has flew by….all the kids love him…and to be honest it’s hard not to…the little man is so laid back, happy and content…..he has four older aunties and uncles (officially) however a family meeting declared that the four of them prefer to see Kayden as a BROTHER…..so he has four older doting Brothers and Sisters….a Nanny and Granddad who love him to pieces and a Mummy who absolutely adores him.

Kayden - 3 months!

 

Kayden getting "the house rules" explained!! a few hours old!

 

:)   good stuff

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To work or not to work?

by on Feb.02, 2011, under My thoughts...

Some things in life make me wonder…..usually at 2 o’clock in the morning!!

One thing that does bug me….should I work?

Taking away the fact that my spine would probably appreciate taking things easy at home….should I work? Snide comments made, the kids reaction when we get home at 5.30, one day off a week, all creep into those dark areas at 2 in the morning….

My parents have always worked and I do not think I have been affected in any way, I have not missed out on anything….I just remember that Saturdays were always VERY busy with Mum BLITZING the house…from top to bottom (probably like our Sundays!!!). So I really do not think my kids will ever miss out because I work. One day off a week I have to live with. Snide comments can go take a jump!!!

I use facebook for various reasons…but mainly so that my family/friends can keep intouch with me. It never ceases to amaze me the amount of people who do not work, often commenting on daytime  TV programmes, stating that they are bored, bragging about the 42″ plasma TV they have just brought…even uploading a lovely picture of it….these people DO NOT WORK – they are on benefits!!!!…While I appreciate that certain people can not work (disabilities of the mind or body) there are a large proportion of people even on my small facebook group who really take the piss!!!!

Probably receiving more money than someone who works full time, nice new car every three years, a holiday three times a year…..moaning on a Sunday night that they have to get up on Monday (to do a School run!), embracing “Fridays” because it’s the weekend (and that’s different to a weekday for you because?), commenting on the sixth time that week they have had a takeaway (usually topped by going out for lunch on the Sunday!!) Complaining that they have to “get up off the sofa to make a brew” ………….TELL YOU WHAT GET OFF YOUR ARSE AND GO DO SOMETHING REAL…..LIKE GET A BLOODY JOB!!!!!! Stop relying on the system to provide for you like it owes YOU!! I’m sorry if I offend anyone….if you are truly disabled unable to work (both my parents are registered disabled, so I fully appreciate disability) then you will agree with me that there are people in the UK who need a slap!!!

Then there are the small group of people who think just because you work for yourself you got it easy…I have actually had it said to me “oh shut the shop it’s only for a day”….”you can do as you please…you aint got a boss!”….”You can afford it…look at your shop!”

mmmmmmmmmmmmmm…… Tell me…how many people would work for nearly a year and be so dedicated to their “job” that they “give” their wages back in order to make the business grow? How many people would take an annual three day holiday and work six days a week? How many people rise over emotional and physical pain barriers to smile and greet every customer?

Self-employment does have benefits….but it also has huge drawbacks.

So back to my question : to work or not to work?

Yes, I could stay at home claiming for all manner of REAL things!!….BUT I CHOOSE not to, and while I can physically can I will work….I want to set an example to my children, I am proud, I owe nothing, and I take from no one.

Ask yourself….what would you really rather do? Fall into bed each night knackered but slightly buzzing, content that your kids are being set a fantastic example? or sit infront of your 42″ plasma TV wondering what bloody takeaway you gonna have tomorrow?

The system stinks…..and I welcome any shake up that will weed out the scummy, lazy gits who claim to be disabled  and their “carers” who also live off the system.  I am having my blast on here, because although I often go on facebook and see these people’s statuses I cannot leave comments on there (believe me I AM SO TEMPTED!!!) because close people I care about who are related to these people would be hurt.

Sharon

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Our first Christmas in Oswestry!

by on Feb.02, 2011, under Always Special

So many people ask “how was the shop over Christmas?” ….one word ……”WOW!!!”

We approached Christmas hoping we were going to be busier…little did we actually know just how busy we would be!!

As it got nearer to Christmas the snow dropped…causing havoc on the UK postal system…sending those who had ordered online into the shop to pick up extra gifts just in case products ordered did not make it through on time, added to that our regular customers who all year had promised to do their “complete Christmas shop” in my shop, and then the first time customers/browsers all adding up to a December that was manic.

The last Saturday before Christmas we smashed our daily record for puchases and customers. That’s it we thought, probably the busiest we will ever be….the shop had customers in from the time it opened at 9.30 until we finally closed the door an hour and half after the usual closing time!!

IT WAS NOT THE BUSIEST DAY!!!

The final week in the run up to christmas was hectic…with three huge deliveries of bath products that week, we were replacing stock as quick as loretta could make it!!! Christmas eve dawned and I was determined to close the shop shortly after dinner and get home to the kids. Figuring that it would be quiet, most people would have done their shopping???

NOPE!!!! Christmas eve kindly smashed the Saturday before by 2 o’clock I knew going home as early as I had hoped was not going to happen…by 3 o clock I wanted to lock the door….by 4 o’clock I did lock the door….turned half the lights out…..to comments like “oh are you closing?” …..(mmmmmm….I do have a life and a few little kids at home who would like to spend some time with me on Christmas eve!!!)

After a very quick tidy round, Z-report and while waiting for Andy to close downstairs there was a yound guy knock the front door…we are closed I mouthed….he placed his hands together and pleaded….DAMN….I unlocked the door.

This guy had ten pounds to his name, he had spent £6 over the road with the “Leather man”  still needed to get home to his mum…and needed a present for her…..I’m a sucker for a sad story….needless to say the guy’s mum would be happy this Christmas!!!!

As I stood at the door….I very proudly wished my little shop, in Oswestry,  a very Happy 1st Christmas – Thanked it for everything.  Lots of people often say 20 Leg Street is a lucky shop, previous owners “Gooseberry Boutique” has grown fantastically, Upstairs/downstairs is one of the best Cookware shops around….all started in 20 leg Street. So fingers crossed that 2011 can be as good as last year….if not better!!!

Thank you to all our customers/friends/family for the support of making me believe in Always Special – The Gift Shop, Oswestry.

:)

Happy New Year Always Special x

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Shae

by on Feb.02, 2011, under The Family

If you have read previous blog entries about my kids…you will have read about Shae….his intelligence, quirky behaviour…..over the summer holidays my little man was assessed by a child psychiatrist, speech therapist and the ball is now rolling on the strongly suspected view that Shae is on the Autistic spectrum….possibly towards the high functioning end

Those of you who have ever looked at their child when they are tucked up safe in bed, fast asleep….eyes tightly closed, dreaming happily in a world that gives them a slight grin on a peaceful face…will have had at that moment – an over-powering surge of love….add to that a feeling of wanting to make everything OK, taking away any problems will appreciate the feeling I had one night looking down on Shae – the need to protect, make everything as smooth in life as possible……I have gone from feeling kicked in the guts by the thought that something is not “normal” with one of my kids, upset, blaming myself…to being thankful that at least Shae is here with us….to actually embracing Shae and his quirks…..Shae is just SHAE

I am right now on a huge learning curve…..so many things about Shae now make more sense…wanting to be alone, frustrated moments sparked up from nowhere, desire for everything just “right”, not being able to play a family game with siblings, intense focus on “wheels” as a small baby/toddler…which has been replaced by dinosaurs, monsters and aliens, a jumper not being the correct colour, his literal meaning and interpretation of the world, what we have always described as “that’s just Shae” really does now become clearer…..although the yearning to see the world from his eyes is huge….to understand.

Shae has now started “big school”. The first few weeks have gone “OK”…….

……..The fact that a teacher had to get into the swimming pool two weeks running ……FULLY CLOTHED.. (  :)    ) to retrieve a fun-filled Shae….will probably always make me chuckle.

……..Or telling the dinner lady to “shut up….because has you can see I am eating my dinner!!!”…..does bring a smile to my face.

or the best….addressing a teacher walking down the corridor…

“Who are you??”

“I’m Mr Hughes, the headmaster!!!”

“Where are you going?”

“…..to my office”

“Why?”

“…..to work?”

To Shae the Headmaster….dinnerlady….school friend….all the same – it’s a shame life really wasn’t that simple, that people didn’t have different rank, importance….another story I guess…

We are at the moment fighting for funding for Shae….but as that is probably the same for every parent with a child needing extra support at School , I am not using this blog as a platform for my grievances.

Shae never ever fails to make us smile (although sometimes keeping an adult straight face is required – impossible!!!) There is a deep intelligence within Shae….and he really does crack us up with his dry “as it is” sense of the world, he is undoubtedly hard work, harder than any of the others…days out have to be planned meticulously, potential obstacles have to be thought about, he is “watched” constantly, his meltdowns tire the whole family, his outbursts are sometimes put above the needs of the other kids…….But he is blond, green eyed….with a smile that when he flashes it lights up the whole of his face….it would melt the toughest of hearts and break the hardest of faces, when you get a cuddle or compliment from him it comes straight from his soul….

He is just “Shae”

Our Shae

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